CHARACTERISTICS OF A HEALTHY MARRIAGE


                    CHARACTERISTICS OF A HEALTHY MARRIAGE



            These are the embodiments expected to be seen in an enviable marriage,     practiced by sane partners. 

(                     (1.)              Working To Get Money:
        Healthy Marriage being a dignified status of a marital relationship should 
        not be  practiced by Partners who are without jobs. The partners should 
        be gainfully employed, so that the relationship must have funds for
        meeting    family needs and development. It is not expected for either 
        of the partners to be a liability to the relationship.
       It will be better for the partners to be self employed and be managers of 
       their own business. That will hinder infiltrations of extra marital affairs from
       other employers of labor.
      (2.) Financial Status:
 Money is the chief quality of a Healthy Marriage. Female Partners are always happy when the house is fortified with funds at all times. A steady impress account should always be maintained at all times. With all items in place, a man will not lose his respect. His wife, the female partner will give him” pet names” that will enable the male partner to be up and doing, releasing money as at when due.
The steadiness of healthy marriage is because there is money to provide all requirements. The marriage is stable, no sex denial especially from the female partner, no wriggling of the face, no constant sighing and tears of regret from the partners. No too much argument. There is respect either real or acted from the partners.
”What are we going to eat this evening?” or “what are we going to wear for the community fund raising?” or” how do we appear on the Easter Sunday mass”. All these are proud questions posed by the female partner to the male partner, because there is availability of money to meet the family needs.
The opposite of the above question occurs if money is not available to meet with needs of the relationship. The Healthy marriage is thus stable because every need is cushioned. Money is the magic wand of the Healthy Marriage family.
       (3.) Continuous Improvement of Family Assets:
The assets of the Healthy Marriage family should be improved and new ones acquired to bring in more money. Funds should be there for quality education of the family, should any member wish to be in school at any time. The assets should be insured and placed in the hands of good workers without prejudice.
      (4.) Dressing:
Partners in a Healthy Marriage are expected to appear exceptionally decent at all times. Their outing dresses becomes enviable, bedrooms furnished and laid to their choice. Their sitting room decorated and equipped with good and most reigning upholstery, natural pictures, electronic gadgets etc.
Naturally, the women partners in a healthy Marriage are always showing off to other women that their male partners give them the best attention..
     (5.) Mobility:
Partners in a Healthy Marriage keep their marriage healthy by having one or more cars to put the family “on wheels”. Female partners do not like to enter public transport or trek long distances.
Vehicles should not be seen as a luxury, but a necessity, no matter how small, but it must be functional. Mobile vehicle is needed especially during pregnancy, delivery, sicknesses and incapacitation. Partners who do not have vehicles stand the risk of losing one of the partners or their children if hospitals and physicians are not reachable to administer their services.
  
        (6.) Good Food Varieties:
This is a very good point in a Healthy Marriage. It should not be “Rice every day”, not”Garri every day” or not” fresh fish every day”. Female partners may not accept the same type of food every day. The female partners love varieties of food items for their maximum enjoyment.
The male partner should see that the family enjoys varieties of food stuffs, hence the partners should order for bags of rice, beans, garri, tubers of yams, assorted beverages, semolina, wheat, flour, Cartons of Tomatoes, fresh tomatoes, tinned meat and fresh meat, varieties of fruits and assorted drinks.
      (7.) Kitchen Equipments:
A woman once revealed that she got married to her husband because she met “a good food parking store, a well equipped and arranged kitchen, available table water, deep freezers, wooden drawers, utensils, table cloths of different colors and cleaners for the house and kitchen, there is gas and electric cooker”. These are the pride of women in their husband’s house.  She said “Kerosene or gasoline stoves should not be mentioned in this era. Women partners resent kerosene stoves nowadays because the stoves blacken the pots and they have no time to wash black pots soiled by gasoline smokes”.
 (8.) Fruitfulness:
Fruitfulness is the ability to reproduce. Partners are expected to inform each other about their procreation status before engaging in a marital relationship. In a Healthy Marriage, ability to have children is a binding factor that ties the union more together. If Partners are deficient of this, the marriage may not last long. After six months and no pregnancy, surely, one of the partners will start to doubt the productivity of the other, unless the Partners have agreed to have their babies at a later period due to educational pursuit, travel or national assignment. If there are no excuses, accusations will start to pour in between the partners.
If there are no children, one Partner may release accusation and say to the other, “you are the cause of our inability to have babies”. Counter accusations will follow. The next is” let us go to the doctor and know who is at fault.
At this stage, bitterness has crept into the relationship. No happiness in all the partners do in their home whether acted or natural. After medical examination and both parties are cleared, and yet there are no sign of pregnancy, the marriage is bound to crack and fall.
Those who understand that the power to procreate is God’s prerogative will go back to God in prayers and wait until God intervenes, while partners who disregard God will quarrel and end their marriage

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